To be in love is one of the best feelings in the world. A person might be overwhelmed, exhilarated, and even euphoric when he/she is in love. However, as soon as the honeymoon period is gone, sticky issues such as misunderstanding, blame games, heated arguments, etc can take a toll on the relationship making the couple grow apart from each other.
No wonder why couples usually get divorced within the first year of marriage. To avoid taking your relationship to a point where there is no going back, try to resolve the conflicts at the earliest. Here are a few conflict resolution tips that might help people in marriage.
1. Express Your Thoughts And Feelings Directly
Sometimes you might wish to keep your grievances only to yourself or bring them up in front of your partner at some later date. But keep in mind, before you come to realize it, those unspoken grievances can pile up and become an emotional tornado. It is always in your and your couple’s best interest to directly express your feelings honestly and in a caring manner.
Showing consideration and care for your loved one can help resolve the issues. Express your feelings and tell them you care about the relationship and you did not mean to upset them.
2. Communication Is Key
We can not emphasize much on this thing that healthy communication is the key to a flourishing relationship. Healthy communication means making eye contact, listening to your partner, and giving your partner as they speak. Respond appropriately whenever your partner asks you something. Keep your body language and tone respectful towards each other.
In case you are unable to have healthy communication then seek relationship counselling to help you communicate properly with each other. By adding all these ingredients, you will have the perfect recipe for a relationship that can be your bedrock for love and harmony.
3. Don’t Blame Your Partner
Avoid blaming your partner. You might feel tempted to blame everything on your partner but this will make your problems only endless. Nothing good will come out of it. The person you are trying to blame will feel attacked and will respond harshly instead of resolving the problem. Imagine calling your partner crazy for some wound they have caused you.
The blame will immediately shift towards you as the other partner will go defensive. Therefore, to save your relationship, avoid the blame game. Remember it is both of you against the conflict not against each other. The relationship is a collaboration, not a competition.
4. Stick To One Argument At A Time
Try to stay on one theme of the topic, instead of shifting away from one argument to the other. This way a heated argument can go in a different direction similar to a car that hit an icy patch on a chilly winter day. If you move away from one simple idea, the argument will be lost in a fog of related but unnecessary issues
